In season four of Chuck, one of the characters (Morgan) avoids visiting his mother’s home so he doesn’t have to face Big Mike, his mom’s boyfriend. Big Mike reveals that he plans to propose to Morgan’s mom, but asks Morgan to hold onto the ring until he feels comfortable giving the couple his blessing. In season four, the geek gone spy is putting everything on the line, available for pre-order here: http://bit.ly/r3n2er.
As a three-time stepdaughter myself (my dad has remarried once, my mom twice), I can absolutely relate to Morgan’s predicament. It’s difficult to set aside your own feelings and make your parent’s happiness the highest priority. Even if you do adore the person that your parent is starting a new life with, change can be difficult…especially when you’ve gone through rough experiences in the past and have finally gotten into a groove that works with the people in your life. Ultimately, it’s important to set boundaries while making newcomers feel welcome. If they do something that makes you feel uncomfortable, tell them! It will save a lot of heartache and miscommunication down the line. Respect your own feelings about the situation, but also understand that it is not really your choice to make. Offer support, offer your opinion if it’s asked for, and offer congratulations. Whatever the complications or external circumstances, it’s an incredible thing when two people want to make that commitment to each other and their happiness should be celebrated.
I can’t recall my parents ever seeking my opinons on their remarriage, but I’d like to think that I would’ve been supportive of someone else’s happiness while keeping a watchful eye on our family (even during my most bratty teenage years!). Have you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?
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