Success. We all think about it. We long for it and dream and make HUGE sacrifices to achieve success. But many people don't actually know success when they see it, because it's treated like a big unspoken mystery. The “S” word.
Actually saying that you've achieved success? That's taboo. Patting yourself on the back for a job well done? Not kosher!
Especially for moms.
I've seen dads get plenty of attaboys after receiving a raise or expanding their businesses. The wifey is told to let her man go kick back a few beers; she should have dinner waiting on the table after he's enjoyed a round of poker with the dudes! For moms? Not the same. We're not allowed any sort of celebration, let alone solitude. If we exit the house without our children, we're confronted with questions like, “Who's babysitting the kids while you're gone?” and “Did you leave instructions in case things go wrong?” Pretty insulting to moms and dads alike, if you ask me.
I actually Googled, “ways moms can celebrate success” and you know what I found? Not a single thing giving mothers credit for achieving something good! I found plenty of articles for businessmen and lots of guides sharing how women should achieve society's version of success (which is aparently defined as a peaceful household and a happy husband). Call me uncouth, but I'm NOT BUYING IT. I think that after days, hours, weeks, even years of busting your butt to reach a goal, you deserve to shout about it from the rooftops!
Yes, even if you have a family who has to wait in the wings for a moment or two.
I'm putting an end to all this nonsense and carving out time to reward myself. I'm currently celebrating the fact that I completed all three of my treatments with sponsor UltraShape. Woohoo! I know that doesn't sound like a major goal to a lot of people, but it has been really meaningful to me. So I'm reveling in a job well-done with my favorite activities below. I hope you'll join me.
- Rent a hotel room. You've undoubtedly been working very hard, for a very long time, juggling a lot of people and demands. Enjoy some space to yourself! Maybe a bubble bath and binge-watching Say Yes to the Dress? I won't judge.
- Buy a new outfit. Turning the attention on yourself is healthy, and this is an especially appropriate reward if you've been working hard physically.
- Get creative. Take a pottery class. Paint something. Whatever activity makes your right brain feel alive and causes your soul to sing…do some of that.
- Cross something off your bucket list. Skydive. Zipline. Take a vacation to Beijing if that's important to you! Just do SOMETHING that will make you feel as if you are making progress on the things that matter to you outside of your family.
- Get a pedicure. Or a massage, if that's more your bag.
- Go wine tasting. If you're not a drinker, just take an opportunity to do something fun with friends. It's not about the activity, it's about the fact that you get a chance to see the world and have a little adult conversation.
- Create a dream board. Completing an important goal often comes with a certain feeling of anxiety as you wonder, “What's next?” Think about your progress and contemplate what you want to put your energy towards in the coming days. Goal-driven people thrive on stuff like this, and it's a special sort of reward for them.
Clearing my schedule and getting other people to watch said children for three days is no small feat, so I'm proud of myself for saying “yes” and prioritizing my own needs. In the past, I might have declined the opportunity, not wanting to be a bother. Looking out for myself is a big accomplishment all on its own.
I'm proud of the results, too! I lost a whole inch in my stomach, going from a hip measurement of 40 1/16″ to 39 1/16.″ Especially in the midst of Halloween and Thanksgiving and Christmas, physical progress like that is a big deal and it's a strong motivator to help me continue focusing on my own health.
Also on the list of things to be celebrated? The holidays. I've checked off my (work) list, checked it twice, and now I'm ready to enjoy something nice! We're winding down and settling in for a cozy couple of weeks with the family, computer-free. We have all sorts of fun festive stuff scheduled on the blog between now and Christmas, as well as a couple peeks into some more recent travels. Stay tuned for all that!
You work hard during this busy season! How will you take time to celebrate your success?
This blog post is part of a paid SocialMoms and UltraShapeblogging program. The opinions and ideas expressed here are my own.